“It’s never too late – never too late to start over, never too late to be happy.”
— Jane Fonda

Too often recovery from an eating disorder or disordered eating seems to involve as many rules as living with an eating disorder/disordered eating itself.
But it doesn’t have to.

This site offers a body positive and food positive method of recovery:

no rules, except eating enough (which is more than you think), responding to all hunger (both mental and physical) and no exercise until you are healthy enough to get active again. No restrictions. This is about working with your body, not against it, to become energy-balanced and to reclaim your life back. This is about building a healthy relationship with food and your body, whatever size your body is naturally healthy at. This is about complete and utter freedom from your eating disorder/disordered eating and from diet culture. This is about leaving behind the preoccupation with food and weight, and making your life about your interests, passions, and hobbies.

eat all the food

Food is not the enemy.

No food should be off limits.
No hunger cue should be denied.
All food is good food: no food is inherently bad.
Eat whatever you want, whenever you want.
Listen to your body, and let it lead you to eat a varied and balanced diet.
Yes, that includes cake.

Our bodies naturally come in all different weights, shapes, and sizes.

A minimally “healthy” BMI is probably not a healthy weight for your own individual body. You do not want to end up forcing your body under its natural weight and struggling to maintain it forever after. That is not being free. You need to continue to eat enough and respond to your hunger for the rest of your life, and see where your body ends up at. Your body will take you to whatever your natural, healthy weight is, and maintain it. Effortlessly. Without any form of restriction whatsoever.

It’s time to start living again.

It’s time to stop wasting your life thinking about food, and start working towards a healthy, happy, ED-free you – a you that is not only rising above your eating disorder, but above diet culture too. It’s not just recovery; it’s a revolution.

Start working towards embracing all food, embracing your body at whatever size, and embracing life. And f!*$ anyone who tries to stop you.

“Miraculous things happen when you decide to do hard things. In spite of all the reasons not to. In spite of all the obstacles. In spite of all the things to blame. Follow, follow, follow your heart to the life you want. In the end, it is all yours to create.” – Erin Brown



13 thoughts on “

  1. Shawnna

    Totally inspiring and helpful! I am at the stage of recovery of fully embracing eating intuitively as well as working intensely on my exercise addiction…listening to MY body. Part of my recovery is wanting to be an advocate for health and happiness BUT I mean WHOLE health…not the “health” we have been sold to by society.
    So with the help of my dietician, tons of reading, and working through a 20 year battle with anorexia, bulimia, and anorexia athletica I know that I want to take a stand aginst the diet culture as well as finally let go of the last piece of the ED. Your writing inspired me once again to follow my heart into psychology, women’s studies, as well as find out how I can help more.



  2. Dad

    As the father of a 12 year old ED daughter, I can’t thank you enough for what you are doing. You have given my daughter the understanding she can’t get from the professionals and the assurance she can overcome the dragon in the garden. Much gratitude from across the pond.

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  3. Alex

    Today in poetry class we read a poem called “shrinking women” and I almost cried, I didn’t want to talk in the discussion and the people in my class were referring to skinny as fit. And one tall girl said how she never went over 100 lbs in her life and then the teacher commented “but your passion is food (she likes to cook)” and everyone laughed . I am over 50 pounds more than I was last year and no one treats me the same as when I was skinny (105 pounds) so idk I just wanted to share this because it made me feel bad and no one would have thought the fat girl could connect to the message, if you want look up the poem most people were talking about the men taking up more space than the girls shrinking I think it’s bc they were scared to say it bc a lot of the girls in my class were skinny and I’ve never seen them eat other than gum and their Starbucks green tea I bet is zero calories


    1. Andrea Miranda Rivas

      You’re so brave for opening up. It’s difficult to feel our struggle is valid if we’re not “skinny”, especially because we tend to feel people are judging. But of course you can relate to a poem: literature is for everyone, and only you know for sure what’s going on in your head.

      Please keep fighting and don’t forget there are MANY out there who recognize how strong you are for fighting these demons. You’re gonna get better, you’ll see!!! And there’s absolutely no need to be skinny for that, even though it’s super hard to believe. “Keep making changes and the shift will happen.”


  4. Keeping things Real

    Thanks for this! It is wonderful! I’m a mother of a fully recovered 15 year old who was lucky to habe Early identification and family based treatment! Hard but worth it – low cost and family empowering. I’m also a recovered person myself (EDs are of course genetically linked biologically based brain disorders.. we also know now there is a metabolic issue as well!). I helped found World Eating Disorders Day and hope you will all join and promote on social media or in live events. http://Www.worldeatingdisordersday.org and on all social media! One note on the page – in addition to not avoiding hunger cues it’s also critical to eat theee meals and three snacks a day. Most people with anorexia and other EDs simply don’t HAVE normal hunger cues so regular routinized eating is critical to healing.



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